Tag Archives: time out

Creating a Family Cohesive Environment for your Tot

While attending church, we have always gone to the building that allows children to attend with their parents, instead of opting for weekly childcare. When the church recently added a building for high schoolers to participate in a church service with their peers, that felt off to me.  Isn’t attending church a family event to do together, not separate?  Unless they are homeschooled, children are at daycare or school with peers, up to 5 days a week.  Why would a 6th day at church be an additional option or offering?  I’m definitely not the only one that feels this way, because I do see some small tots to high schoolers with their parents during the service.
 
Recently I was led to a very intriguing book titled, Hold on to your Kids by Gabor Mate’.  This book provides profound information on the reasons that children are most often choosing to bond to peer groups, rather than parents, as early as 8 years of age. The book also cites the detrimental outcomes of children’s confidence, emotional development and even vocabulary by having an allegiance to their peers.  The dramatic increase in peer bonding is a fairly recent occurrence in society.
 
To get a flavor of the in depth information in Gabor Mate’s book, listen to this eye opening talk on the basis of peer group orientation.  It is a topic typically brought up by parents who are disgruntled and exasperated, yet regretfully accept that their children avoid communication with them and only want to be with their friends.   The link below and his book give perspective on a behavior that is believed to be “normal” for children, but in reality it is not normal, nor is it optimal for child development.  
 
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Episode 5 Passion for Non-Violence

Sit down with Angela and Tina and be part of the discussion to forward our parenting styles. In this show you will get the skinny on how to parent our children to be happy, emotionally healthy and confident.

In this episode they discuss their past episodes and reveal new insights for parents to think about.  You can find out what the fuss is all about regarding time-outs.  Angela and Tina share the most damaging words.  Do you like to be controlled?  Learn how to be direct to your children rather than controlling.

Watch Episode 5 on Monday, October 24 at 7:00am PST and 10:00am EST right here on www.TheTotsCafe.com.

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Is Discipline Necessary

On October 3rd at 8:00am PST, the Tot’s Cafe Show interviews Naomi Aldort, Author of Raising Children, Raising Ourselves.  We get an exclusive interview on a Progressive Approach to parenting and it does not include what we Westerners call “Discipline.”

In this show we talk about the effectiveness of the Time-Outs, how to create a “Love House,” and relating to our children with respect.